ANAL SEX?

SEXUAL ACTIVITIES

Hello Everyone ✴️

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. it’s been so long, let me know what you’ve been doing with your holiday, in the comments below 😎

So today I am going to be treating a topic, i’m pretty sure has crossed most of our minds, even out of curiosity. To answer some questions and to shed light to some thoughts, and for those of you who are interested in that exciting sexual lifestyle, this is for you.

Before I begin, I want to (again) apologize for always leaving my blog for too long 🙏🏽(I have to keep the inspiration coming) I will defiantly try my best to do better (Promise).

Alright let’s begin 3:28PM (African Time) FINISHED 10:36 – 30th December 2022 ( almost a year after 😅😂🤣)

You would be shock to realize the number of people who actually perform and enjoy anal sex but never talk about it, the society we live in has rendered that particular sexual activity a taboo and it has been tagged a “gay” (sex between two males) activity and the criticism doesn’t allow one to express his/her concerns regarding Anal Sex.

But Anal Sex is widely enjoyed by both males and females, and these days a lot of people indulge and engage in these sexual activity

I personally can not and will not define Anal Sex as a taboo or a wrong practise, because each individual have different bodies and sexual desires and urges, we each do what pleases us, how it pleases us and when it pleases us. This is a judgement free zone 😎🙂

Despite the fact that Anal Sex is a popular sexual activity performed by couples all over the world. I feel understanding the pleasure, reward, risks and proper strategy is important for the individuals involved.

Like any sexual activity, anal is inherently unsafe but enjoyable. It just requires planning, prep and more communication than other sexual activities. Many think anal sex is simply anal penetration with a penis but we have a few more options. It can also be performed with fingers, tongue, sex toys (e.g Vibrators, dildo & butt plugs).

THINGS TO CONSIDER

One most be prepared before performing anal sex, it is even advised to start with small penetrations, such as fingers and really small sex toys, to reduce the risk of injury, illness or shock.

1. THE ANUS LACKS LUBRICATION

Unlike the virginal that produces natural lubricant when the woman is arouse, the anus however, does not (which means you have to provide it) Penetration without lubricant can tear the delicate tissues inside the anus and lead to pain and bleeding.

2. TEARS, INFECTIONS AND BACTERIA

As with the vaginal tissue, tissue inside the anus is more sensitive than tissue outside the anus. The tissue and skin around the anus acts as a protective barrier for the bottom half of your digestive tract. The tissue inside the anus is thinner, delicate and more likely to tear and bled as a result of penetration, this world likely lead to passing infections, viruses or bacteria whether or not either partner has sexually transmitted infections (STIS) can still pass bacteria between each other through these tears in the anus.

3. COMFORT AND DISCOMFORT

The muscle in the anus must relax to allow comfortable penetration. The anal sphincter acts as a bit of a gatekeeper for the retrim, it’s important that this muscle relaxes, not only does it make it more pleasurable, it reduces the risk of tearing and discomfort, so anal sex involves patience.

3. COMMON CONCERNS

Obviously alot of you have questions and these questions have answers;

1. WILL IT HURT: Yes and No, at first it will hurtnas you try to get acustomed to it but remember to stop if it becomes uncomfortable.

2. IS IT NORMAL TO BLEED?: Yes and No. It is possible to experience some bleeding your first time or second time. However the bleeding should stop and if it doesn’t or grows worst, see the doctor.

3. WILL IT AFFECT MY ABILITY TO POOP?: You might experience an urge to use the bathroom soon after the sex is over but it doesn’t stop you from pooping.

EASY INFECTIONS AND DISEASES TO CONTACT

• HIV • GONORRHEA • CHLAMYDIA • HERPES • HERMORRHOIDS • COLON PERFORATION

Communication is key and you and your partner need to know when to stop. You can use Enema to clean your anus before and after sex. Cut your Nils , wear a condom or dental dam to prevent infections. Lay on the right position laying on your stomach with your partner behind is better, Doggy style is also an easy position. Lubricant is a most. Go slow and check with your partner constantly. Accept there will be some poop 💩 involved. Clean up afterwards.

Anal Sex can lead to Orgasm ❤️

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Sorry I haven’t been available people… I kind of lost inspiration until two days ago…

This piece of work is from my heart ♥️ it fills the void that has been making its way to both my mind and heart. I hope you like it🙂

I have no worries outside this world 🌎 Pain tried but can’t claw its way to my heart

Darling sorrow, our undiluted love has suddenly lost its taste. I pull off this darkness like a worn out garment.

The shattering sounds of breaking chains is a melody from the heavens. I surrender completely to this unfailing love

light 💡 washes through me, blinding me. Eyes that once were open to darkness and evil are closed

Redeeming is the Love I now possess. Grateful is my heart for the Saving Grace

My heart ❤️ is filled with boundless love. There are no borders to this new BEGOTTEN FAITH.

I AM INDEED FREE🌹

LITTLE MISS BUSY🌞🌞

A whole episode On makeup 💄

It’s been like what? Forever? LOL 😆

Well the biggest event in my life recently has been starting my Own business. Starting KIJE COSMETICS this month has been really nice and a wonderful experience, I’ve been making plans for months, researching and trying to find vendors. Doing a little bit of that and a little bit of this.

Am so excited to officially launch soon, but for now I want to share the experience that led to me wanting to start my own cosmetic line, it was an experience based on buying bad products and putting on the terrible chemicals on my face, I consider it a bad decision, bad taste and bad MAKEUP PRODUCTS 💄

BAD MAKEUP 💄 👄

When it comes to beauty, skin and fashion I always advice you to get the best, even if it cost you a little extra cash 💰 you just got to spend that money to get real and good result. sometimes even expensive makeup products mess up your skin, as long as they contain the wrong ingredients for you. I started off with really terrible choice in makeup products, and for that I had to deal with ugly side effects, I can’t forget the Pimples, Dry skin, uneven skin tone and eczema (yes eczema) that’s how bad It can get, my main problem was the bad foundation and concealer, and we all know, this are the main products used during makeup, it took only two days for the effects to start showing, and in a week i couldn’t show my face in public. Then I looked up the cosmetic line (I won’t mention them, because I don’t know if it’s their ingredients or something am reacting to) I realized that some particular products are bad for me (shocking right?) since I have a sensitive skin and all, not every lipstick out there is for you, same for other products that involve appliance on the Skin

LOOKING GOOD WITHOUT A COST?

Cosmetics, especially makeup as we all know is used by both men and women all over the world to enhance beauty. Makeup can be used to do so many things either to cover acne, a scar, wrinkle or blemish, it has been a source of getting attention, admiration or even praises for women and men for many generations, till date. Most people believe that makeup is made and used by women only, but they’ll be shock to know that Men in this age and time are seriously involved with makeup as much as women, everyone wants to look good, despite gender and age

The face is the most important feature of the human body, as the face is the focus of contact in interaction amongst people, it is important to everyone, because no one over looks facial beauty. So women and men need to be guarded as to what makeup product they apply on their faces. There are fake or substandard products in the market, with cosmetics products made from toxic ingredients which have ugly and harmful effects and even leaves scars, from chemicals burns to severe rashes on the face of those who use such products, sometimes the reactions can be extended to the body. Some of these products have not been properly tested for the safety of the public and authorized government bodies haven’t permitted these products to be used or sold to the public.

SOME HARMFUL ELEMENTS

There are some really nasty and harmful elements fount in fake makeup products •Bacteria. •Mercury. •Aluminum. •Rat Feaces. •E. Coli. And even HUMAN WASTE PRODUCTS

SIDE EFFECTS 😞 😦

•Allergic Reactions. •Eye Infections. •Diarrhea. •Skin Reactions. •Kidney Failure. •Anemia. •Abdominal Pains. And sometimes death

This is why it is advised for all makeup cosmetics users to very careful of where they buy and source their makeup. Purchase from reliable places and sources, guaranteed for their wide array of genuine and certified makeup brands fit for all skin types.

So that is like the little pep talk I have for guy guys today, like really don’t take for granted this words, I have seen the really nasty things bad makeup products can and will do to you if you fall victim and I can’t wait to officially launch KIJE COSMETICS where you are guaranteed of Good, safe makeup products. Follow me on Instagram @a.lucie.j Follow KIJE COSMETICS on Instagram @kije_cosmetics

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MY WORLD

MY WORLD

In my world of lonely
I never learnt to love or dream
Never learnt to love selflessly
My little world had no room for extra
No room for complications
Or conflicting emotions

So when the sweet rain of passion fell on me
I couldn’t make out what it was that I felt
I delighted in pleasure and seeking no more

Dearest beloved I see through you
In your eyes I see promises unspoken
You’re reaching out for the unseen
While am lost in the moment
Unable to break free
I can’t make room for more
I never learnt to take more..
You keep giving

The lovely scent of autumn
Comes with a dark covering
I will replace the sun with the moon
So I can mask my darkest desires
The rays of the sun will only let you see the lack of love in me
The unworthy lover I’ve become
The one who takes and is not capable of giving
Not even a little.

Forgive me dearest lover
My selfish heart will not let you go
And will not satisfy you.
The heavens have punished me with unquenchable passion and cursed my heart to desire only you
Set me free so that I will let you go.
Let’s break free from this hopeless love..

YOU REMIND ME (poetry)

YOU REMIND ME

I don’t know what it is about you, but YOU REMIND ME OF ME.

who I used to be , how being young and reckless was the fun of then. YOU REMIND ME OF LOVE. How being ‘head over hills’ was fun and real

How I trembled at the touch of a loved one, how I used to crave the kisses of a young love.

Oh how much time has passed, living old wounds fresh and bleeding. The wind still blows, REMINDING THIS OLD HEART of midnight caresses.

The air still carries with it a lovely fragrance, the sound of your name recalls it.

THE CRAVE FOR LOVE

HOW I MISS OLD TIMES, when boys will always be boys and girls petals in the wind. I miss the sweet sensation of a kiss, the heat of forbidden passion, the hunger for something more. Above all I MISS YOU.

AT NIGHT I still hear the wild beats and the wild pleasure cry. I recognize the voices of those pleasured creatures, I remember the nights like yesterday and I dream of those dark things.

Its been so long and I don’t know how I manage to remember. I guess love such as ours is never forgotten.

SADLY YOU REMIND ME OF HIM.💝🍷👑

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

“WHY WOMEN STAY”

I started jotting this down yesterday, around 3:06pm, the 22 second of march 2020.

After watching a video two days ago of a young boy of 18-19 beating his girlfriend of a younger age, for talking back at him and telling him that she was pregnant… I really got so provoked, I couldn’t understand and I began reflecting on all the assault cases I have witnessed and heard of, and the worst part of it that is most painful to me is the fact that most of this woman still stay in this relationship despite the continues beating and scars and tears…

I am often baffled by the degree of assault women condone for no certain reason. As a young woman, I grew up with the stereotype of being subservient, of not being enough and despite my many arguments supporting equality in both genders all efforts made, were futile.

I am a woman and i see what mothers go through, I see what my peers take from their partners all in the name of “LOVE” LOVE is such a short word, funny and filled with so much meaning, that is what women use to justify the pains they go through… Normally I see it as plain foolishness and stupidity, why would I stay in a relationship that is toxic, when am suffering and beaten like a slave. I researched and inquired, because it tears me apart to see this things, it really breaks my heart…

I realise that its more than that, women are shock absorbers, we grow up with the notion of multitasking and as such believe that we can do anything, just to have that perfect life, picture perfect lifestyle, the life the society feel is good enough, but they never see them dying slowly and painfully.

A neighbour of mine stay’s with his girlfriend, he’s in his early twenties and she is not much younger and he beats her on a regular basis, not only that he batter’s her, I hear her frequently cry for help but you know the irony of this situation? I see her smile the next day, kiss him, cook for him, love him and stay with him, she does it all for love, after all he’s a man, its a man’s world, he’s only doing what’s right by him, he knows what is best, maybe (she thinks) he’s trying to shape her into a better woman, this is probably what goes through her mind daily. She is tempted to leave, I see her sometimes try to leave, but he Drag’s her back and hit her even more, then I realise “SHE’S AFRAID”.

I see beautiful women, mothers, young girls who are flogged, beaten and molested, Mothers who are assaulted in front of their children, they can’t leave, WHY? Because of their children, they love too much to condemn their children and family to the scrutiny of the society, they don’t want to be seen as failures. I have also seen women who die in abusive relationships all because they were too scared to leave their comfort zone, they couldn’t imagine life without HIM.

The affect effect is more painful than the abuse itself, kids grow up thinking that all relationships are like that, all marriages are full of tears, pain and a little joy, and all women are meant to suffer, all women are below men and all women are meant to be submissive to a fault. They deserve nothing but the worst. For the females, they grow a thick skin preparing for when they would also marry and face the exact same thing, no Man is perfect after all, some of them even have phobia for marriage and commitment. For the males, most of them end up like daddy and the few who don’t? Hate it with extreme passion.

If you ask me why women stay it’s either because of SOCIETY, LOW SELF ESTEEM, or LOVE, which is sometime the main cause of this problem… I believe that women should be protected, no matter what, violence is never the answer, there are better ways to deal with provoking situations, instead of oppressing and breaking a weaken person… This assault don’t just leave physical scars but emotional and mental trauma…

Please let’s restrain from being abusive.. And as for us women let’s find the strength and way to push out of Abusive relationship, tell someone, no man who truly loves you will ever lay a hand on you👸👑

WHEN WRITING BECOMES DEPRESSING

So here I am writing about when writing got depressing for me and maybe the same for others..

For about a year now, I have been struggling with my writing, I really didn’t know why till I fell into a big wide hole of darkness, with each day spent on struggling to beat those conflicting emotions…

Writing has always been a way to escape, a place to pour out my raging emotions and bring beautiful ideas to life, my book, my pen and my mind has always been my world, away from the outside world and criticism, I could bring to life any fiction (I still can) and I would pour it out in writing, even though I never completed those stories, it was still a relief to be able to pen it down and read it after.

Until last year, when things just fell apart, and my mind seemed so divided and I couldn’t see my life like it was or should be, spiritually, physically and mentally I was just broken and there was no way out, even my writing couldn’t bring me the usual peace, and I couldn’t pour out my emotions into writing, and that was the only form of escape I was aware of and knew how to indulge in. I tried, I kept trying, I pushed myself, wrote and tore the blue pages, I was frustrated and slowly I lost myself in the torn pages, I wanted to be me again, I wanted to be steady again and I kept making mistakes and hurting people who really loved me or trusted me, it was my way of being rebellious, and I kept trying to find happiness in things that were of no use and temporary.

Really didn’t know that all I needed was a break and a focus, the answer wasn’t in any of those books I read, or in my hands, I am not the author of my life and my mind just needed a break from what it usually saw as comfort and my spiritual life needed a true purpose, and it wasn’t in the fake worship, praise or efforts I applied to God.. I had to stop being fake, stop the pretentious smiles, and had to break down this rebellious spirit that has clawed its way into my heart…

I know many of you are wondering “How on earth did you get out of that dark phase?” Well, it wasn’t easy, but all I did was let go, let go of the pain, anger and everything, I started living a simple life and didn’t add pressure, I worked on becoming a better person not for any body but for myself and my peace of mind. I didn’t go to church like I used to but i told God to take control and today 13th March 2020, almost two years, I am writing again, writing not as a means to escape but a way to change the world or someone.